This question was asked by Stella Damasus, and it is such a pertinent question because, I'm certain it's a dilemma some married women face.
If your hubby were cheating on you, and you knew about it, and there's nothing you can do to stop him from cheating, and you want to remain in the marriage all the same. Would you put condoms in his briefcase?
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I think 80% of women have thought about this at some point or another, given the high rate of cheating which men engage in. But im sure most would rather
1. Ignore the cheating and pretend not to see
2. Address it and tell their men to stop
Rather than offer them condoms. Doesn't that seem like validating the man's cheating. Like you telling him, ok, you've got the license to cheat but protect yourself.
Either way, it's such a dicey situation.
Men, please desist from cheating, I know it's not a one way street and there are women who cheat as well, but this probably is an insignificant number compared to the number of men who cheat. It's just so rampant, it can be likened to an epidemic.
In my humble opinion, it is rather the woman's attitude of "there is nothing I can do" which poses a big danger than putting the pack of condoms in the husband's bag. Someone cannot be identified to infidelity as if he was born to be unfaithful. Many circumstances can push people to certain unfortunate behaviors. Marriage counselors are out there to help couples trace the causes of some of these habits. You cannot solve a problem from its effect, you must trace the cause. And the woman putting the pack of condom in her husband's bag, how far is she even sure that he will use it. Filtering condoms into his bag is an escapist way of handling the problem which can only create more problems in the marriage.
Imo I won't put condoms in his bag. Putting condoms in his bag is like me giving him the licence to go on and cheat on me all he wants but he should not catch any std. I don't even believe in cobdoms because I am yet to see anyone who is well aware that someone has Aids and he goes on to sleep with the person owing his or her life to condoms. Condoms are a gamble that I am not ready to take.
More over, even if I thought condoms were very safe and I decided to put some in my husband's suitcase there is no guarantee that he will use them. If a man is irresponsible enough to cheat on his wife he should wear his thinking cap.
I agree with you but the only solution to a nagging wide or whatever marital problem must not be in looking for another wo/man. This goes to generate another problem. What about the kids if they are present? Think of their feelings. So none of the de/male egoism can be explained by creating another.
that will be the biggest mistake for u will give him wings to fly.
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