My own belief is no sex before marriage(not easy, yes, but it's the right thing to do), so sorry, I don't have any advice for you. Please, someone else, advice this young lady
"I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We have always had an amazing sex life until about 6 months ago. I noticed a change in our sex life shortly after i found porn on his phone. Since then things have not been the same. He doesn't seem to care that it hurts me that he prefers porn over me. We have sex maybe once every 2 weeks if im lucky. We are young(both under 25) so age is not the issue. I have tried everything i can thinkof (sexy outfits, different positions,etc) nothing makes a difference. I feel used and unappreciated.
Also, its not that i am not attractive, i am probably the best he will ever get. I am overall very attractive and get plenty of men who approach me, but i love him! I feel like i should just say no sex at all just have your porn so i dont feel used twice a month. I need advice!"
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I think guys typically get involved with porn because 1) we are visually oriented and 2) it is completely self-pleasing without requiring any return commitment. (I know, shocking that guys shy away from commitment!) It's a bit like the one-night stand through which enjoyment is gotten with no strings, no consequences - and nothing is required in return.
I don't think it's a secret that, generally speaking, women find an emotional connection in love-making while guys "just like to get laid". We don't necessarily connect love with the act.
Further, I would guess that, if he's taking care of his urges on his own, he's "satisfied and isn't driven to give you the attention you need and deserve.
Communication is the best way to resolve things like this, but you will both have to want to talk about it. Just don't assume that he knows how bad it bothers you. I know I need direct communication from my wife for me to understand what or why something is bothering her.
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